If you're already watching Lights
Out surely you know about possessive friendship between Sophie and Diana who
become friends since they’ve met in mental hospital. Diana who suffered from
strange disease that couldn’t stand the light so attached to Sophie even until she’s
death, after the doctor and scientist failed to conduct the experiments with
extreme methods in an attempt to cure Diana’s illness.
They were inseparable when they
stay there. Both had the same belonging to each other, even though Diana was
dead. Their possessive friendship turns out to be some kind of door for the
spirit of Diana to get into the real world and killing peoples. The
relationship was interrupt when Sophie’s mental health restored, and she’s
became normal in mind.
Diana can only return when Sophie
in a state of distress or frustration so that the spirits are trying as much as
possible to put Sophie in such conditions so that she can get back to the real
world anytime she wants. Initially the sincerity of friendship eventually started
to become manipulative for the benefit of one party.
Whatever the reason is, a
possessive friendship was not healthy for one another. So beware if your buddy
finds to be possessive person in such possessive friendship which can be seen
as follows:
- Your Buddy Always Insisted To Know Where You Are
Always want to
know where you are every time. If your friend can’t reach you with phone call
then she will try to do so through any media...she will check your social
media, email, and even asked your other friends.
In the most
severe levels she even ordered you to make tapes or video to update your
whereabouts at that time...something that’s not sounds right, right?
Considering your buddy isn’t your parents anyway...
- Contacting Many Times With Unusual Periods
You may find text
message on your SMS, BBM, or WA, or even a call every one-hour of range is
something normal to show your buddy’s concern. Well, I think you should wake up
from now…it’s not even close…that’s not a healthy friendship you’re looking
for…don’t you realized if his/her message could disturb you badly?
If this kind of
relationship continues then maybe you would feel uncomfortable due to the
message delivery that certainly almost provoking when you’ve been busy at the
classroom or office meeting.
- Interfered in All Things and Want To Take Charge
Suddenly she
made a plan for you about what to wear, where to eat and what should or
should’ve not, when and where you could go. When you’ve been hangout, your
buddy is busy criticizing the movie you want to watch and impose his choice,
demonizing shoes you have wear and make comparison with your body’s choice that
way much cooler. Beware not to letting him/her go into your private area that’s
actually something that envies by angels from you…your free will…
- Make A Boundaries For You
Best Friend
Forever, so your buddy has said, considering you as her one and only friend
she’s got, no one else, and asked you do the same. As the time gone by she
becomes irritable easily when you spend your time with another friend, or guy /
girl that suites you, even with your own brother / sister.
Playing roles as
the abandoned later to put you on bad person because of it, trying to make you
in guilt, so when you follow the game, slows but sure, then you’re being
‘cooped’ up with your buddy without having chance to know the outside world.
- Frequently Asking Your Opinion About Herself
In a friend relationship
usually communication makes by two sides which mostly talking about herself by
the first party, while the second one takes a listen more and occasionally
responded by telling the first party, also, about herself.
But possessive
communication goes the other way around, your buddy want you to tell your
opinion of how kind of person she was. It’s ok if only happened once or twice,
perhaps she need your help to do self reformation, but if it’s in her head
hundred times each time you’re doing conversation then you have to be alarmed…
What you should do when you find
your friendship turned out to have traits like we’re talking about? Here are some
tips to correct it to the right path:
- Finding New Friends
Having a buddy
that doesn’t mean you should have no other friends. Instead you need to make new
friends as an investment in your future, especially networking that will be
very helpful in your career.
When you already
had new crowds just invite your buddy to get acquainted with your new friends.
When jealousy or displeasure implied by the presence of new friends all you
have to do is just point her out to remind her that she still best part of
yours, being the closest person for you rather than your new friend, without
prejudice to the possibility that you will continue to build relationships with
your new surroundings
- Maintain Your Privacy
Friendship
doesn’t mean you have no privacy. If she began to read a messages on your mobile
phone and often asked who’s calling you so the relationship is certainly not fun
at all. Especially if she could read sweet talk he send to you of which should
only you who got the right to read it.
Ask her nicely
by saying that you don’t like her to read your phone message so she should
respect your privacy. Perhaps you may need to change the password of your
email, facebook account, twitter or any social media account if she already
leafed through something that actually belongs to you…
- Ask For Do-it Your Way
A possessive
buddy wanted to taking care everything of you. That feels comfortable at first
but without you even realized you become dependent to her, and the truth is not
all problems could be solve by her because you as an individual who actually
knows how to solve your own problem. When she intervened it may actually make
things even worse.
So you better
asked her to step aside for a while so you have time to think and solve
problems with your own. Good buddy will understand, perhaps she will offered
you advice but leave everything into your hands.
- Do Communication To Exchange Opinions
Communication is
the key to reduce misunderstandings that could ends with anxiety and possessive
attitude due to ignorance. Possessive buddy usually always wanted to hear her
opinion being implemented. She may want to give the best for you because of her
high-level of care but she need to know also that you have your own opinion and
decision.
It will be
better when she gives you an advice for some issue, you also gives your side
view about how you want it done so you also heard by her. Communication were
not dominated with one of you and both doing it without pushing each other to
be heard.
Now, take a best sight to observe
your best friend behavior and do the four tips above if you want to become Best Friend Forever till the world goes around for centuries...
If it's not work, there’s the
fifth tip as an ultimate choice…buy a gun…maybe what Sophie did by shooting
herself to end the possessive friendship of Diana is brilliant, especially if
your best friend was already a ghost and haunt you over and over again...
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